Yes, so far so good. I'm having the best time in my life & found new besties. Secapek-capeknya pekerjaan yang sekarang dengan semua kendala yang ada, gw ga abis-abisnya juga bersyukur kalo my surroundings are the greatest. It's kinda like the universe collaborating to make me happy. Am so blessed :D
Thank you Allah for everything.
just some random thoughts, acts, silliness & shopping habits of one obsessive-compulsive smokes-a-lot princess, in her own way of dealing with work, love, life & loneliness..
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Thursday, April 21, 2011
Monday, April 4, 2011
MONDAY MADNESS
How was your Monday? Mine started with.. bangun kesiangan #tepokjidat! Udah kesiangan bangun, eh si teksong pake ikutan lama datangnya. Alhasil gw dateng extra telat. What made it more exhausting adalah.. dipanggil meeting sama RB!! Yes, I finally met the famous RB & got shout at. Well not actually shouted at me, but hey am in THE team rite? #mewekgila. Sebenernya ini imbas dari amukan si RB pas hari kamis, soalnya keliatan banget dia masih pissed off sama HRD & berjuta-juta kali mention that perticular name.
Afterwards came another retail meeting with my partners & HoD. Then another meeting with SVP. Booook sumpah gw pengen ngerokok banget!! Trus apa yg gw lakukan setelah those endless meetings? i went mall hopping from PI, GI, PS & SC. Asli kaki gw pegel geelllaaak pas sampe rumah :(
Afterwards came another retail meeting with my partners & HoD. Then another meeting with SVP. Booook sumpah gw pengen ngerokok banget!! Trus apa yg gw lakukan setelah those endless meetings? i went mall hopping from PI, GI, PS & SC. Asli kaki gw pegel geelllaaak pas sampe rumah :(
Thursday, March 24, 2011
HADALABO

Been using this for 2 months now & am loving my skin more and more each day! Digabung sama metode Chizu Saeki, jerawat lumayan menjauuuh & muka gw jadi glowing. Ga tambah putih sih *sigh* tapi GLOWING! Ah, saya jatuh cinta..
Pengen cobain serumnya ah. Konon kabarnya lebih mujarab kalo pake satu paket. Bismillaaah, semoga cepat terwujud! *amiiiin*
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
EYE CANDY
Abis urusan Artha Graha beres, gw jalan kaki ke Elecronic City. Asik juga ya ngantor di sini ntarnya. Nyebrang udah Pasific Place, ngesot dikit Electronic City. Mau spa-spa ada ada Samsara. Pilihan makan siang banyaaaak! (walopun gw mau mencanangkan hidup sehat & hemat dengan.. bring my own lunch wkwkwkwk)
Muter2 di Electronic City, iseng-iseng liat kamera. Pengeeen banget beliin nyokap kamera pas ntar gajian pertama. Ga usah yang mahal-mahal, ga usah yang canggih-canggih deh. Asal nyokap bisa photo-photo doang. Gara-gara Mama pernah bilang pengen punya, gw jadi kepikiran sampe sekarang :(
Liat sana sini, eh malah ditawarin kamera ini sama mas-masnya. Asli keren abis & gw alhasil terngiler-ngiler + lupa total sama tujuan utama buat nyariin kamera untuk Nyokap. Hadeeeh.. KUMAHA INI MAMAAAAAH???? Salahkan Om Darwis yang ngeliatin aku mulu dari posternyaaaa #plak!
Lupakan GH2, lupakan G12. Am sold to this baby *mau nangis ga sih nabungnya, secara harganya berbanding lurus sama Louis Vuitton Monogram Neverful GM huaaaaa*
Olympus PEN E-PL2
Muter2 di Electronic City, iseng-iseng liat kamera. Pengeeen banget beliin nyokap kamera pas ntar gajian pertama. Ga usah yang mahal-mahal, ga usah yang canggih-canggih deh. Asal nyokap bisa photo-photo doang. Gara-gara Mama pernah bilang pengen punya, gw jadi kepikiran sampe sekarang :(
Liat sana sini, eh malah ditawarin kamera ini sama mas-masnya. Asli keren abis & gw alhasil terngiler-ngiler + lupa total sama tujuan utama buat nyariin kamera untuk Nyokap. Hadeeeh.. KUMAHA INI MAMAAAAAH???? Salahkan Om Darwis yang ngeliatin aku mulu dari posternyaaaa #plak!
Lupakan GH2, lupakan G12. Am sold to this baby *mau nangis ga sih nabungnya, secara harganya berbanding lurus sama Louis Vuitton Monogram Neverful GM huaaaaa*
Sunday, March 20, 2011
WEDDING PARTY
So we (Rubi & I) went to this wedding party that we've been excited for the past 2 weeks. Kenapa excited? Karena cateringnya Akasya hahaha. Kebayang kan makanannya pasti enyak-enyak + kita udah dapet bocoran menu yang keluar apa aja (Disimpen di BB eke biar bisa konsen mau cicip apa aja ntar. Sungguh niat!). Jadi dengan perut kosong karena emang sengaja ga makan dari siang #plak!, off we went to this wedding party di Balai Sudirman.
Setelah masukin amplop, signed in the name yada yada yada, mulailah kita menjelajah. Mumpung masih sepi, kita mikirnya ntar-ntar aja deh salamannya. Perut lebih utama ciiiin, asli laper gilaaak. Sasaran pertama adalah Sup Bakso Udang untuk menghangatkan perut & siap menerima asupan gizi berikutnya. Rubi dong pertama yang diambil Teppanyaki & Buffet hahaha. Abis itu menyusul berturut-turut: Tempura *ajib boos, rasanya sama kayak Tempura Hero kecintaan gw jaman dulu*, Mie Bebek Hongkong *enaknyooo, bebeknya gurih nian!*, assorted Sashimi *seger! ada TAKO, TAKO!! ga kuat makan sushinya tapi huhu. soyunya asin bener yeee*, Ribs BBQ *yak, inilah hidangan yang sangat gw gemari dari Akasya. Sungguh sedap!!*, & Es Doger. Selebihnya gw cuma mampu ngeliat miris sama menu-menu lain yang ga mampu masuk perut saking kenyangnya. Jadi yah maafkeun ya Thai Steamboat & Nasi Briyani. Saya tak mampu lagi..
Eh waktu kita lagi hot-hotnya makan itu, iseng-iseng kan liat antrian salaman ya. Astajiiim, antriannya udah sampe pintu masuk! Waa padahal waktu kita dateng itu antrian belom panjang & kita ga pernah ngantri makanan lho *ini penting!*. Makanya asli kaget banget pas liat kenapa antriannya udah panjang & ruangan makin lama makin sumpek hehehe. Jadi setelah ngambil perbagai kue kecil nan manis sebagai oleh-oleh, kita memutuskan untuk.. langsung pulang saja wkwkwkwk.
Am wearing this new Aldo silver party shoes yang sangat cantik di kaki, tapi sakitnya masyaolooo. Beneran deh sakit banget! Yah, musti beli pengempuk sepatu deh biar bisa dipake lagi.
HAPPY WEDDING YA PRISKAAAA!!
Maapkan kami yang ga sempet salaman :D
PS: on the way back, gw baca lagi menu-menu yang gw simpen di BB itu. Ternyata gw melewatkan Dimsum & Lontong Kikil. Aaaaaarrrggghh!!!! Sebel! Kok tadi ga nemu ya? Dimanakah para Dimsum itu bersembunyi? Penyesalan tiada akhir deh ga sempat bersua dengan Dimsum Akasya #plak!
Setelah masukin amplop, signed in the name yada yada yada, mulailah kita menjelajah. Mumpung masih sepi, kita mikirnya ntar-ntar aja deh salamannya. Perut lebih utama ciiiin, asli laper gilaaak. Sasaran pertama adalah Sup Bakso Udang untuk menghangatkan perut & siap menerima asupan gizi berikutnya. Rubi dong pertama yang diambil Teppanyaki & Buffet hahaha. Abis itu menyusul berturut-turut: Tempura *ajib boos, rasanya sama kayak Tempura Hero kecintaan gw jaman dulu*, Mie Bebek Hongkong *enaknyooo, bebeknya gurih nian!*, assorted Sashimi *seger! ada TAKO, TAKO!! ga kuat makan sushinya tapi huhu. soyunya asin bener yeee*, Ribs BBQ *yak, inilah hidangan yang sangat gw gemari dari Akasya. Sungguh sedap!!*, & Es Doger. Selebihnya gw cuma mampu ngeliat miris sama menu-menu lain yang ga mampu masuk perut saking kenyangnya. Jadi yah maafkeun ya Thai Steamboat & Nasi Briyani. Saya tak mampu lagi..
Eh waktu kita lagi hot-hotnya makan itu, iseng-iseng kan liat antrian salaman ya. Astajiiim, antriannya udah sampe pintu masuk! Waa padahal waktu kita dateng itu antrian belom panjang & kita ga pernah ngantri makanan lho *ini penting!*. Makanya asli kaget banget pas liat kenapa antriannya udah panjang & ruangan makin lama makin sumpek hehehe. Jadi setelah ngambil perbagai kue kecil nan manis sebagai oleh-oleh, kita memutuskan untuk.. langsung pulang saja wkwkwkwk.
Am wearing this new Aldo silver party shoes yang sangat cantik di kaki, tapi sakitnya masyaolooo. Beneran deh sakit banget! Yah, musti beli pengempuk sepatu deh biar bisa dipake lagi.
HAPPY WEDDING YA PRISKAAAA!!
Maapkan kami yang ga sempet salaman :D
PS: on the way back, gw baca lagi menu-menu yang gw simpen di BB itu. Ternyata gw melewatkan Dimsum & Lontong Kikil. Aaaaaarrrggghh!!!! Sebel! Kok tadi ga nemu ya? Dimanakah para Dimsum itu bersembunyi? Penyesalan tiada akhir deh ga sempat bersua dengan Dimsum Akasya #plak!
Saturday, March 19, 2011
PAMERAN
Jadi critanya mau nemenin Rubi ke pameran tapi laper berat. Alhasil mlipir dulu ke Menteng buat makan Gohyong & Fuyunghai. Enak banget! Tapi abisannya rada mabok MSG hahaha. Efek begok & kurang 'DONG' segera melanda. Hadeh..


Kelar makan, kita menuju Bidakara. Mendadak gw buta daerah Menteng. Ini pasti gara-gara emesge deh #plak!
Di Bidakara juga gw ga 'DONG' banget sama keadaan sekitar. Duh beneran deh, orangnya ngomong apaa gw cuma bengong aja ngeliatin sambil berpikir enaknya minum apa ya yang seger-seger hahaha. Ga lama di Bidakara, gw menagih janji dengan minta makan bakso sepedah di Pondok Indah wkwkwkwk. Another MSGventures :D
Abisan photo supermoon, eke minta dibalikin pulang aja. Ngantuk banget! Padahal diajakin Chippy mimik2 lutju huhuhu.
Moral of the stories: kalo abis makan di Menteng mendingan langsung pulang. Keputusan yang buruk untuk pergi liat-liat pameran sementara kondisi otak sangat blank sodara-sodara!!!

Kelar makan, kita menuju Bidakara. Mendadak gw buta daerah Menteng. Ini pasti gara-gara emesge deh #plak!
Di Bidakara juga gw ga 'DONG' banget sama keadaan sekitar. Duh beneran deh, orangnya ngomong apaa gw cuma bengong aja ngeliatin sambil berpikir enaknya minum apa ya yang seger-seger hahaha. Ga lama di Bidakara, gw menagih janji dengan minta makan bakso sepedah di Pondok Indah wkwkwkwk. Another MSGventures :D
Abisan photo supermoon, eke minta dibalikin pulang aja. Ngantuk banget! Padahal diajakin Chippy mimik2 lutju huhuhu.
Moral of the stories: kalo abis makan di Menteng mendingan langsung pulang. Keputusan yang buruk untuk pergi liat-liat pameran sementara kondisi otak sangat blank sodara-sodara!!!
Thursday, March 10, 2011
DEG DEG PLAS
It took me a very long time to fill in the form, and I ended up putting Mas Danang & Rubi as my character references. There's no way they would let me down kan? Hehehe. Afterwards they gave these 2 blank papers which need to be drawn into: 1). a tree 2). a person. Matek gilaaaa, gw ga bisa gambar!!!! Apa pulak ini hadeeeeh #plak! Bodo ah hajar aja. Sumpah gw aja malu sendiri liat hasil gambar gw yang sungguh kalah sama gambar ciamik anak TK. Andai dulu lebih memperhatikeun Pak Tino Sidin huhuhu.
After 10 minutes, then it's time for ITUNG-ITUNGAN *nangis sesengukan di pojokan*. They gave me this sales report of one brand & told me to calculate according to the stated questions dengan senjata perang: pensil + kalkulator tukang daging *pingsan*. To make it even worse, they limit the time into 50 minutes sajaaa. Yak, SEMANGAT!!! Walopun angkanya serba kecil-kecil & sebagai orang berdampak OCD I can't help myself to count twice on every single digit *sigh*.
Kelar masalah gambar menggambar & itung-itungan, gw diajak ngobrol sama A + dijelasin dengan rinci responsibilitiesnya apa aja. Trus lanjut ke orang berikut (gw lupa namanya huhuhu) & orang berikut lagi (tetep lupa namanya huhuhu) & orang berikutnya (ga usah tanya namanya sapa!!). Total jendral 4 orang saja & gw ended up mabok ngomong hahahaha. Dari setengah 3 sampe setengah 7 malem, am going home feeling exhausted but surprisingly gw ngerasa lega setelahnya. At least I've tried & gave my best.
GANBATE!
After 10 minutes, then it's time for ITUNG-ITUNGAN *nangis sesengukan di pojokan*. They gave me this sales report of one brand & told me to calculate according to the stated questions dengan senjata perang: pensil + kalkulator tukang daging *pingsan*. To make it even worse, they limit the time into 50 minutes sajaaa. Yak, SEMANGAT!!! Walopun angkanya serba kecil-kecil & sebagai orang berdampak OCD I can't help myself to count twice on every single digit *sigh*.
Kelar masalah gambar menggambar & itung-itungan, gw diajak ngobrol sama A + dijelasin dengan rinci responsibilitiesnya apa aja. Trus lanjut ke orang berikut (gw lupa namanya huhuhu) & orang berikut lagi (tetep lupa namanya huhuhu) & orang berikutnya (ga usah tanya namanya sapa!!). Total jendral 4 orang saja & gw ended up mabok ngomong hahahaha. Dari setengah 3 sampe setengah 7 malem, am going home feeling exhausted but surprisingly gw ngerasa lega setelahnya. At least I've tried & gave my best.
GANBATE!
Saturday, January 29, 2011
AM FINE
Thursday, November 6, 2008
SOMEWHERE OVER THE RAINBOW
Way up high,
There's a land that I heard of
Once in a lullaby.
Somewhere over the rainbow
Skies are blue,
And the dreams that you dare to dream
Really do come true.
Someday I'll wish upon a star
And wake up where the clouds are far
Behind me.
Where troubles melt like lemon drops
Away above the chimney tops
That's where you'll find me.
Somewhere over the rainbow
Bluebirds fly.
Birds fly over the rainbow.
Why then, oh why can't I?
If happy little bluebirds fly
Beyond the rainbow
Why, oh why can't I?
Entah kenapa, gw selalu nyanyi or at least humming lagu ini whenever I feel down. Lagi bete, marah", pms, sedih, pokoknya keadaan apapun deh yang bikin gw feeling so low, selaluu aja lagu ini yang otomatis keluar dari mulut gw. This song is my sanctuary banget deh. Dan kenapa ya lately Cacha juga mulai humming lagu ini juga?
*Like mother like daughter*
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
TIME FOR CHANGE

The 44th President of The United States of America
Bangga juga ya USA punya president yang gede di Manggarai & sekolah di Besuki. Indonesia yang katanya kampungan & sering jadi hujatan + bulan"an USA, ternyata bisa nelorin The 1st African American US President. Kebayang ga guru" Besuki pasti terharu & pada bangga. Hihi..
"I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic for which it stands: one Nation under God, indivisible, With Liberty and Justice for all."
Thursday, October 23, 2008
SHE GROWS LIKE A BUTTERFLY
Ga kerasa ya, si Cacha udah 3 taun sekarang. Udah mulai nyebelin *sigh* karena cereweeet bgt & ga bisa diem! Duh, rasanya pengen balik ke masa dia baru 3 bulan sampe setaunan. Perasaan dulu anteng bgt deh. Pernah waktu umur 9 bulan gw ajak shopping di PS & dia tidur most of the time we were there!! Shopping di sini means gw bener" shopping ya.. Lha wong dari jam 2 siang sampe jam setengah 10 malem =DSekarang udah bener" kayak ulet kecil yg selalu nguget" ga tentu arah. Udah bisa bilang "Hello Mama, my name is Shamira! Thank you" dengan nada girang. Udah ga bisa liat gw di depan kompie/notebook, karena manjat gw & ikutan juga. Udah bisa minta dibeliin kura" & boneka bibi (barbie maksudnya). Malah udah bisa ngerampok gw beli boneka bibi 2 biji kalo jalan" =D
Kadang gw suka bingung deh. Perasaan gw tomboy berat deh, lha ini kok si Cacha doyannya princess" gitu ya? Maunya baju" pinky & cinderella style. Beda banget deh sama gw yg senengnya pake celana pendek. Dari bayi kalo rewel tinggal sodorin make-up pouch gw aja, pasti langsung anteng & mingkem. Malah gw perhatiin dia bisa makein lipstick ke bibir & pensil alis ke alis lho! Walopun dia ga bisa bukanya, tapi dia tau lipstick dipake dimana. Ajaib kan? Cacha paling seneng mainin kuas" gw, waktu masih bayi malah suka dimasukin mulut tuh. Dan mulai umur 2 taun, dia sukaa sekali pake wangi". Makanya gw menjauhkan segala macem body splash & perfume dari jangkauannya. Secara dia pernah ngabisin perfume gw yg Hermes Un Jardin Sur Le Nil!
Tapi ya.. Galaknya sama kayak gw. Hihi.. Asli galak pol deh. Apalagi kalo menyangkut makanan, walah.. Pernah gw lagi gendong dia & dia-nya lagi megang rice crackers di kedua tangan. Nah, gw gigit dong rice crackers yang deket sama mulut gw. Book, jejeritan ga keruan! Ya ampun 'Nak, Mama kan cuma gigit dikit ajaaa..
Jangan cepet gede ya baby,
Mama sayang Cacha,
Selalu dan selamanya..
The song I always sing whenever I put her to bed, from baby 'till now..
You make me happy when skies are grey.
You'll never know dear, how much I love you.
Please don't take my sunshine away"
Sunday, August 24, 2008
5 GOLDEN RULES YOU SHOULD ASK YOURSELF
A relationship coach lays out his 5 golden rules for evaluating the prospects of long-term success. When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Mrs. Right!
If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love." I believe it is the #1 mistake people make when they date.
Choosing a life partner should never be based on love (alone). Though this may sound not politically correct, there's a profound truth here. Love (alone) is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again : You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot more.
Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION #1: Do we share a common life purpose? Why is this so important?
Let me put it this way:
If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life bottom line- and marry someone who wants the same thing.
QUESTION #2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
QUESTION #3: Is he/she a mensch?
A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions: Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing." So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world: People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.
QUESTION #4: How does he/she treat other people?
The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?
To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as a waiters, bus boy, taxi driver, etc.? How do they treat parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? Do they show respect? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you - who can't do nearly as much for them! Do they gossip and speak badly about others? Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.
QUESTION #5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?
Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage ... for the worse!" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.
In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.
* maaaaaak! ribet amat nyari si baby yak *
If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love." I believe it is the #1 mistake people make when they date.
Choosing a life partner should never be based on love (alone). Though this may sound not politically correct, there's a profound truth here. Love (alone) is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again : You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot more.
Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION #1: Do we share a common life purpose? Why is this so important?
Let me put it this way:
If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life bottom line- and marry someone who wants the same thing.
QUESTION #2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
QUESTION #3: Is he/she a mensch?
A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions: Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing." So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world: People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.
QUESTION #4: How does he/she treat other people?
The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?
To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as a waiters, bus boy, taxi driver, etc.? How do they treat parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? Do they show respect? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you - who can't do nearly as much for them! Do they gossip and speak badly about others? Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.
QUESTION #5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?
Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage ... for the worse!" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.
In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.
* maaaaaak! ribet amat nyari si baby yak *
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